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The urge to chase presents itself at a young age. First, we chase the attention of our parents and teachers. We chase grades, awards, accolades, educations. After that come the status careers and promotions, fancy cars and homes, and other markers of success. Most of us, at one point or another, are chasing something. We chase dreams, callings, passions. We chase money and security. We chase … [Read more...] about The allure of chasing things

When you think of “taking care of someone,” what comes to mind? Perhaps you might think of “love,” “warmth,” “devotion,” “attention,” or “concern.” You might also think of “hardship,” “sacrifice,” “burden,” and “burnout.” All these words speak to the complex reality of taking care of our loved ones. I’m now in Year 3 of family caregiving, and currently dividing my time between Oregon and … [Read more...] about Finding oneself while caring for others

The other day I had a great conversation. It was life-affirming, easy, and clear (“everyone was on the same page”). Each person honored each other with deep respect and curious inquiry. It made me smile for a long time afterwards. I was grateful because I was still harboring a wound from elsewhere, a harsh conversation. Gosh, we all have them at one time or another – bad meetings full of hurt, … [Read more...] about Recognizing an open – and closed – heart

Every once in a while, out of the blue, someone honors us with something very special: unconditional positive regard. They have a twinkle in their eye when they look at you and endow you with praise like, “You’re amazing,” “You make my day,” “What a great person you are,” “Thank you for being you.” Lately, I am reflecting on certain people who have honored me in this way. People, who, when they … [Read more...] about Think the World of Someone

Those of us in the Pacific Northwest know that winter brings grey, wet weather for long stretches at a time. This week, I have enjoyed a wonderful spell of sunshine and warmth. I’m trying to focus on my immediate world of burgeoning tulips and irises, relishing the gifts of nature and of being able to walk outside, safely, uneventfully. I’ve had a very hard time keeping anxiety at bay and being … [Read more...] about Finding peace during troubling times